Wow. When I read Amy Chua’s article in the Wall Street Journal that was my reaction. Wow. On the one hand, she upholds some sterotypes that are out there of Asian mothers. On the other, she tries to let us see the reasoning behind the behavior. The one thing she does not do is to cut American moms any slack. At all. Period. I think the word that comes to my mind is “wimps”.
This is pretty hot stuff right now. There has been much talk about Ms. Chua’s new book on the topic, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” and I suspect she probably feels that her words have been misinterpreted by some. She has voiced her viewpoint and I am taking this opportunity to address some of the issues in hers that are causing me the most difficulty.
- “ What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it.”
I struggle with this because I don’t believe it to be true. Life is about the journey, not just the end result. And we can’t all be good at everything.The struggle to learn something new and to master it can be fun as well as challenging. And I can have fun at bowling or scrapbooking or whatever even if I’m not great at it. Doing something just for the experience is enlightening and enriching. (more…)