So there I was, going to the movies for a little mindless chick flick and the movie was “Sex and the City 2″. Never did I suspect that I would find a nugget of mothering truth in it, but I walked away thinking about a scene with the film’s two moms, Charlotte and Miranda. In it they are sipping wine and telling “Mommy Truths”. (At least, that’s what I call them.) It’s a funny scene and it gets funnier and more honest with each truth that they reveal.
You’ve never heard of Mommy Truths? Allow me to introduce you. Mommy Truths are when you are with another mother(s) you trust and one of you finally says the thing about motherhood that weighs the heaviest on your heart. The one thing that in the dark of the night makes you believe that Social Services would take your child if they knew how you feel sometimes. It’s not for sissies or for those who refuse to admit that they are imperfect. But Mommy Truths are the the monsters under the bed that disappear once you’ve spoken them out loud.
For example, have you ever thought, “If I have to get up one more time tonight I am going to throw myself or my baby out the window. I haven’t slept in three nights!” Or, how about, “ I do not LIKE you right now!” about your child. And, one of my personal favorite, “Why did I think it would be a good idea to have a baby???”. These are Mommy Truths. They look ugly on the page and they feel ugly when they’re running around in your mind, but once they’re said to other mothers who get it, you realize that you are ok it’s normal to not be happy with being a mom all the time. (Please note: Mommy Truths are never to be spoken to the child. Or certain family members. They are only for the consumption of other mommies.)
Mothering is an incredible journey. I have often said that it’s the most humbling thing you’ll ever do. Your children will unmask every hidden personality wart you’ve ever had. And it’s embarrassing to admit that you have warts in a world of “perfect”. “Oh, I LOVE being a mom! It’s the greatest thing ever! My baby slept through the night since before birth.” You all know that I personally do love motherhood—so much so that I work in this field as well as being a real, live mom. But anything that matters to you that much is going to also give you fits at times.
So, Mommies, unite! Share your joys and moments of awe and your Mommy Truths, too.
Tags: Mommy Truths, motherhood, Sex and the City
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First of all, I absolutely LOVED that scene in the movie. Almost died laughing. I think it was so funny because it is SO true! Even the most positive people who never speak a negative complaint have these thoughts. I'm a rather realistic/pessimistic person so I have no problem admitting out loud that I want to pull my hair out sometimes or that I am absolutely dreading the age where tantrums become common ground. And let's talk about those eating habits- I know they all go through "phases", but if my kid doesn't start voluntarily eating vegetables soon I'm going to have to hook an IV into him and intravenously feed them to him. But I digress...for all you perfect, positive mom's out there- YOU CAN VENT every once in a while! You will NOT be judged by other mommy's because we ALL have very similar thoughts. And take it from the wonderful group of friends I've made from the hospital mom's group, alcohol can help the words flow!!!
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